“…It is very nice system that one man can marry more than one wife. That is natural.”

“…It is very nice system that one man can marry more than one wife. That is natural.”

Prabhupada said, “…It is very nice system that one man can marry more than one wife. That is natural.” – Lecture on SB 1.2.16, 19 August 1972, Los Angeles

“According to Vedic civilization, because man is very aggressive, so he’s allowed to accept more than one wife. He’s allowed. Generally, female population is greater than the male population. So the Vedic principle is that every girl must be married by the guardian, father. A father’s duty is, as soon as girl is thirteen years old, fourteen years old, it is the duty of the father, or in the absence of father, it is the duty of elder brother to get her married. Some way or other, find out any husband. Yes. So if every girl has to be married, and if the female population is greater, then where to get so many husbands? Therefore it is very nice system that one man can marry more than one wife. That is natural.”

“Man has no maximum. Even an eighty-years-old man can marry a sixteen-years-old girl.”

“Man has no maximum. Even an eighty-years-old man can marry a sixteen-years-old girl.”

Prabhupada said, “Man has no maximum. Even an eighty-years-old man can marry a sixteen-years-old girl.” – Room conversation, 27 February 1977, Mayapur

Radha-vallabha: He is nineteen years old, and he made arrangement with…

Prabhupada: This boy?

Radha-vallabha: Yes. The boy that wrote that. And he made arrangement with another devotee to marry her daughter at a later date. She’s only twelve. So I’ve told him not to do anything until I spoke to you, because I don’t think this has ever been done in our movement yet.

Prabhupada: Hm?

Radha-vallabha: I don’t think anyone has ever done this before in our movement, the Vedic system. So I had a few questions about it. First of all I told them that they shouldn’t associate until the actual time that they get married. That’s true, isn’t it?

Prabhupada: No, no, marriage, they do not speak. That is the disease in your country, that… There is no objection nineteen-years-old boy and twelve-years girl, it is very good combination, but the culture is so bad that after few days they will separate.

Radha-vallabha: Yes. That’s the actual problem.

Prabhupada: If they stick to have one husband and one wife, it is very good. Or even the man can marry more than one wife. That is allowed in the Vedic system. The difficulty is nobody remains as wife, nobody remains husband. It is very dangerous. That is against Vedic. Otherwise man can have more than one wife, but woman cannot marry more than one husband. But the system – the boys and girls intermingle so freely, and in your country there is no restriction – naturally it becomes adulterated. That is the danger.

Radha-vallabha: So he wanted to know that…

Prabhupada: Knowing or no knowing, they’ll not do with him. So what is the use of consulting me? They’ll break. They’ll promise and they’ll break. How you can make them standardized? They will break.

Radha-vallabha: They have to be responsible people.

Prabhupada: They’ll never become. That is my experience. So what is the use of consulting me? They’ll never become. Almost impossible. They’ll not keep standardized.

Radha-vallabha: So it should just be up to them.

Prabhupada: What is the use of consulting? They’ll promise and they’ll break.

Radha-vallabha: Yes, you were telling me in Hawaii about that, that that is the difficulty. They have no responsibility. All right, I’ll tell him that.

Prabhupada: Hm?

Radha-vallabha: I will tell him that.

Prabhupada: Otherwise there is no objection. I married; my wife was eleven years old.

Radha-vallabha: You were responsible, though.

Prabhupada: Eh?

Radha-vallabha: But you were responsible.

Prabhupada: Everyone in India responsible. That is Indian culture still.

Radha-vallabha: Should… When they agree at this young age, they should wait till they get older, right?

Prabhupada: Yes. Generally a girl attains puberty at fourteen years, thirteen years. In India because it is tropical climate… I think in Western countries they attain puberty not before fifteen, sixteen years. So although a girl is married before puberty, she is not allowed to go to the husband until she has attained puberty. Formerly, in our days also, after attaining puberty there is another second marriage. Then the husband and wife live together.

Radha-vallabha: Is there a minimum age for the man?

Prabhupada: No. That is… Minimum age means generally the husband must be older than the wife, at least five years’ difference.

Radha-vallabha: What is the most amount of years they can be different? What is the maximum amount of years there can be difference?

Prabhupada: Man has no maximum. Even an eighty-years-old man can marry a sixteen-years-old girl. (laughter)

Radha-vallabha: Because this one devotee has a daughter twelve and he wanted to marry her to a man twenty-six, but he thought that was too much difference.

Prabhupada: Yes. That is too much difference. But eight years, ten years usual.

Radha-vallabha: Eight or ten years is best. So he also wanted to know if…

Prabhupada: That is healthy.

Radha-vallabha: He wanted to know also…

Prabhupada: And in no case… The girl must not be older than the boy. That’s not good at all.

Radha-vallabha: At the time of the agreement, when they are not yet old enough, they do not associate at all. So not until the actual marriage do they associate or wear white or anything like that.

Prabhupada: No, even they can be married, but no association.

Radha-vallabha: No association. So the boy can be… If the girl has attained puberty say at thirteen, fourteen, even if the boy is only twenty, twenty-one it is all right. All right. I wanted to make sure. I wasn’t allowing them to see each other. I wanted to make sure they weren’t doing anything un-bona fide. So I’ll tell him that.

“Polygamy is allowed.”

“Polygamy is allowed.”

Prabhupada said, “Therefore, according to Vedic rituals, those who are higher caste, just like the ksatriyas or the brahmanas, especially, others also, polygamy is allowed. Polygamy is allowed.” – Lecture on SB 1.8.51, 13 May 1973, Los Angeles

“But now things have changed. Nobody cares whether the daughter is married or not. But that is not good. Another difficulty is that everywhere, all over the world, the female population is greater than, on the average, than male population. So if each and every woman has to be married, then there is no sufficient number of male population. Therefore, according to Vedic rituals, those who are higher caste, just like the ksatriyas or the brahmanas, especially, others also, polygamy is allowed. Polygamy is allowed. Just like our most exalted personality, Krishna, He has married sixteen thousand wives. He is God. (laughter) Unless you have got so many wives, how you can be God?”

“We are therefore in favor of polygamy…”

“We are therefore in favor of polygamy…”

Prabhupada said, “If all the girls are not married there is a good chance of adultery, and a society in which adultery is allowed cannot be very peaceful or pure. In our Krishna consciousness society we have restricted illicit sex. The practical difficulty is to find a husband for each and every girl. We are therefore in favor of polygamy, provided, of course, that the husband is able to maintain more than one wife.” – CC Adi 14.58, purport

“In India in those days and even until fifty years ago, polygamy was freely allowed. Any man, especially of the higher castes – the brahmanas, the vaisyas and particularly the kshatriyas – could marry more than one wife. In the Mahabharata, or the old history of India, we see that kshatriya kings especially used to marry many wives. According to Vedic civilization there was no restriction against this, and even a man more than fifty years old could marry. But to be married to a man who had many wives was not a very pleasing situation because the husband’s love would be divided among his many wives. To punish the girls unwilling to offer Him the naivedya, Lord Sri Caitanya Mahaprabhu apparently wanted to curse them to be married to men who had at least four wives.

“The social structure allowing a man to marry more than one wife can be supported in this way. Generally in every society the female population is greater in number than the male population. Therefore if it is a principle in the society that all girls should be married, unless polygamy is allowed it will not be possible. If all the girls are not married there is a good chance of adultery, and a society in which adultery is allowed cannot be very peaceful or pure. In our Krishna consciousness society we have restricted illicit sex. The practical difficulty is to find a husband for each and every girl. We are therefore in favor of polygamy, provided, of course, that the husband is able to maintain more than one wife.”

“…Society makes a law that one should not marry more than one wife. This is typical of a demoniac society.”

“…Society makes a law that one should not marry more than one wife. This is typical of a demoniac society.”

Prabhupada said, “…Society makes a law that one should not marry more than one wife. This is typical of a demoniac society.” – SB 4.26.6, purport

“People have become so degraded in this age that on the one hand they restrict polygamy and on the other hand they hunt for women in so many ways. Many business concerns publicly advertise that topless girls are available in this club or in that shop. Thus women have become instruments of sense enjoyment in modern society. The Vedas enjoin, however, that if a man has the propensity to enjoy more than one wife — as is sometimes the propensity for men in the higher social order, such as the brahmanas, kshatriyas and vaisyas, and even sometimes the sudras — he is allowed to marry more than one wife. Marriage means taking complete charge of a woman and living peacefully without debauchery. At the present moment, however, debauchery is unrestricted. Nonetheless, society makes a law that one should not marry more than one wife. This is typical of a demoniac society.”

“We have no objection if one marries more than one wife. That I have stated.”

“We have no objection if one marries more than one wife. That I have stated.”

Prabhupada said, “We have no objection if one marries more than one wife. That I have stated. But law does not allow it. So do the needful.” – Room conversation with GBC members, 2–3 March 1977, Mayapur

Satsvarupa: More resolutions about book distribution. The temple presidents, in order to control the techniques of book distribution, whether they are going against our resolution not to use illegal techniques, the presidents should go out on a monthly basis and observe their own book distributors, how they distribute books in the field. And also the GBC man should go out in each of his temples in his zone at least once during the year to see how the men are distributing books. And if a temple continues some illegal technique for book distribution, the BBT trustees are responsible to do the needful to rectify it.
Prabhupada: What is that?
Satsvarupa: We have made one resolution that certain techniques should not be done. They are too dangerous for arrest. So if a temple persists in doing those illegal techniques, then the BBT will…
Prabhupada: Rectify.
Satsvarupa: Yes. Also for book distribution techniques, the use of the Santa Claus uniform and other theatrical costumes is banned, not to be done.
Prabhupada: Is there any legal objection?
Satsvarupa: No.
Prabhupada: Then why?
Kirtanananda: They’re legal.
Hrdayananda: There was a great deal of negative publicity.
Kirtanananda: They are legal…
Prabhupada: So if it is legal, why shall they be…?
Ramesvara: The reason it was decided is that even though it is legal in America, in foreign countries there is bad reaction. The Americans do not mind as much as the foreign countries. So we are concerned for the international image of our movement.
Jayatirtha: It was published in practically every newspaper in the world, a picture of Santa Claus being arrested by a policeman in America. We got a lot of questions. Also the President of the United States questioned one boy in a Santa Claus outfit.
Ramesvara: We felt that it would not seriously decrease the book distribution if we stopped this.
Prabhupada: Oh, yes. Then it is all right.
Ramesvara: That’s the real thing. That’s the key factor.
Prabhupada: All right.
Satsvarupa: A legal committee of Balavanta, Adi-kesava, and Ramesvara will investigate whether certain techniques are legal or illegal according to the laws. Then one of the popular means to distribute books is by women’s party. A party of women will travel under the care of a man devotee. But in taking care of the women, we have noted that some of these parties have been preaching a false philosophy of the relationship of the man who’s taking care of the women, and that philosophy is that the sankirtana leader is the eternal husband and protector of the women in the party. We want that this philosophy should be rejected. If a man is taking care of a number of women in a sankirtana party, he should be regarded as the son as well as a representative of the spiritual master, of Srila Prabhupada, and not the husband of these women.
Prabhupada: Husband, but why he does not marry them? (laughter)
Satsvarupa: Well, sometimes there may be as many as twenty women in a party.
Kirtanananda: They would like to.
Prabhupada: We have no objection if one marries more than one wife. That I have stated. But law does not allow it. So do the needful.
“So all girls must be married…They must have one husband, even the husband has got fifty wives.”

“So all girls must be married…They must have one husband, even the husband has got fifty wives.”

Prabhupada said, “So all girls must be married. That is… They must…They must have one husband, even the husband has got fifty wives.” – Room conversation, 1 August 1975, New Orleans

Prabhupada: That is time for punishment. They should build up their character, samah, damah, fully controlled. When they like, they become grhasthas. Otherwise they are controlled. That is brahmana. For brahmana it is not compulsory to marry. Ksatriyas may marry more than one wife. They can take. So all girls must be married. That is… They must…They must have one husband, even the husband has got fifty wives. Then the problem of girls’ marriage will be solved. And as soon as one girl is pregnant, she should be separated.

Hrdayananda: From the husband.

Prabhupada: At least for one and half years.

Upendra: At the moment of pregnancy? From the moment of pregnancy one and a half years?

Prabhupada: Yes. Pregnancy is understood at three months. From that month till further, sixteen months at least, she should not come to be near husband. That is eka-kadi (?). The child does not live. And they are not inclined to come unless a man induces. So the man, if he has got more than one wife, so man will not disturb her. And she will take rest for the next eighteen months. So after ten months she will give birth to the child, and for six months continually she will take care of the child. Feeding the child with breast milk, the child will be healthy. If the child can take mother’s milk for six months at least continually, he’ll become healthy for life.

Upendra: Where do they send that mother?

Prabhupada: Where they’ll take care.

Upendra: If the man sends the woman away, where does she…?

Prabhupada: Our aim is not to give help, but not… Generally she goes to the father’s house. So you can have separate building for that.

Nityananda: Are you saying that our men should have more than one wife?

Prabhupada: I have no objection.

Satsvarupa: That’s a difficult proposition.

Prabhupada: Why?

Satsvarupa: It’s not allowed in this country. It’s illegal. It’s against the law.

Devotee: It’s against the law.

Nityananda: No, it’s a matter of… No one knows who is married or unmarried, but if you have…

Prabhupada: That is not very difficult.

Satsvarupa: Well, the other difficulty, you brought this up several years ago, was that the men who take many wives have to be very select. Otherwise men will be attracted to join our movement for sex life, having different wives.

Prabhupada: No, no, unless our men are trained up, why you should allow to stay here and to wife. We want trained up men, not third-class picked-up. We want men who will follow the rules and regulations and fully trained up. Otherwise we don’t want. We don’t want ordinary karmis and… And if he agrees to be trained up, then we’ll take. Otherwise what is the use of bringing some useless men? He must agree to produce his own food, and work. Our rules and regulations, he must follow. Then it will be ideal community. Otherwise, if you bring from here and there some men and fill up, that is not good thing. This is a training institution, to become devotee.

Satsvarupa: Everything we do, we don’t hide it. We show the world what we’re doing. I don’t see how we could hide that one man had many different wives.

Prabhupada: If you don’t call wife, you can have. The law allows you to keep boyfriend, girlfriend. Then the… Instead of calling “husband,” call “friend.” That’s all. But, er, it is risky and the man must be responsible to keep… To keep more than one wife by trained-up man is not disallowed.

Brahmananda: But I think they thought that he could get it legally established, at least in the state of California.

Prabhupada: Well then go and marry there. If the state of California allows that, then they all can go to California.

Nityananda: The general public objects to that… It’s very…

Prabhupada: Public we don’t care. We… What is the public? We have got our own public here. So pub… What is the public? All rascals. They are killing cows and drinking and topless dance, bottomless dance. What is the value of this public? All rascals. I don’t give any importance to this class of public, only after sense gratification, that’s all. They have no ideals of life. They do not know what is God. What is the value of this public?

“One husband, at the present moment, must marry at least one dozen wives, otherwise they’re going to hell.”

“One husband, at the present moment, must marry at least one dozen wives, otherwise they’re going to hell.”

Prabhupada said, “And the law is you cannot marry more than one wife. The rascal lawgiver. So many women, there must be… One husband, at the present moment, must marry at least one dozen wives, otherwise they’re going to hell. At least, she will know that ‘I have got a husband.’ Maybe the husband of twelve wives, but they are anxious to have a husband. That facility should be given to them. They are anxious.” Room conversation, 15 August 1971, London

Devotees: Miniskirt?
Prabhupada: Miniskirt, trying to show the private part and people will be attracted and she will be happy. This is regular prostitution. Regular prostitution. Still they are not getting husband. Even they walk naked… That will come. Say after fifty years it will come like that.
Syamasundara: They are starting already some places, walking naked.
Prabhupada: And the law is you cannot marry more than one wife. The rascal lawgiver. So many women, there must be… One husband, at the present moment, must marry at least one dozen wives, otherwise they’re going to hell. At least, she will know that “I have got a husband.” Maybe the husband of twelve wives, but they are anxious to have a husband. That facility should be given to them. They are anxious.
Parivrajakacarya: But they don’t want to have any children.
Prabhupada: That is next program. Why not? Now we are having our wives, so many children. Los Angeles full of children. So natural way should be accepted. They require husband. The law is, “No. You cannot have more, you cannot marry one wife.” The girls have become prostitute. That’s all right. “The girls are becoming prostitute. That’s all right. But you cannot marry more than one.” What is this?
“When I was married at the age of 21 with a wife who was only 11 years old…I wanted to marry again…”

“When I was married at the age of 21 with a wife who was only 11 years old…I wanted to marry again…”

Prabhupada said, “When I was married at the age of 21 with a wife who was only 11 years old, practically I did not like my wife. And as I was at that time very young man, and an educated college student, I wanted to marry again, in spite of my wife being present. Because amongst the Hindus one can accept more than one wife (of course the law is now changed).” – Letter to Gargamuni, 5 May 1968, Allston

“Woman is not allowed to go to school, college, or to the spiritual master.”

“Woman is not allowed to go to school, college, or to the spiritual master.”

Prabhupada said, “All literatures, all Vedic literatures, they are especially meant for instruction to the men. Woman is to follow the husband. That’s all. The husband will give instruction to the wife. There is no such thing as the girl should go to school to take brahmacari asrama or go to spiritual master to take instruction. That is not Vedic system. Vedic system is a man is fully instructed, and woman, girl, must be married to a man. Even the man may have many wives, polygamy, still, every woman should be married. And she would get instruction from the husband. This is Vedic system. Woman is not allowed to go to school, college, or to the spiritual master. But husband and wife, they can be initiated. That is Vedic system.” – Lecture on SB 1.3.13, 18 September 1972, Los Angeles